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3 WAYS YOUR EGO CAN KILL YOUR RELATIONSHIP

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Nothing will kill a relationship (even the best of relationships) more quickly than ego. Here are 3 ways your ego can kill your relationship, and how to avoid having your ego ruin your relationship.

1.Resist The Temptation To Defend Yourself: Think about the number of times youā€™ve fought with a significant other, and whenever things get a little heated you start to defend yourself. All you hear is you being attacked, and you immediately go into ā€œdefending yourselfā€ mode. Do you know that when you defend yourself in a fight, whatā€™s really happening is your ego is defending itself.

It also means that youā€™ve stopped listening to the other person.  If someone tells you that they donā€™t like the way youā€™ve been acting lately, why not hear them out instead of defending yourself? It will almost always create a MUCH better outcome. 

2.To Love Yourself And Someone Else Completely You Must Separate The Ego: In order to truly love someone, you must separate your ego from yourself. This is also true if you want to be able to totally love yourself. Now, I know that in a perfect world, we would never be ego-driven. This is not a perfect world of course, so letā€™s get real. We are all ego-driven to some extent or another, so letā€™s acknowledge it and embrace that we need to separate the ego to cultivate and maintain a truly amazing relationship with someone.  

3.Your Ego Can Ruin Any Conversation: The truth is that no matter how much you prepare, plan and hope for a good conversation with your significant other, your ego is the one thing that will consistently ruin any conversation youā€™re about to have if you let it. 

Letā€™s say your significant other is frustrated with you in one way or another and really needs to express something about that to you. How do you respond? If you let your ego get involved and you defend yourself, it means that youā€™re not listening to them.

In order to really listen to somebody, itā€™s uncomfortable.  Sometimes your significant other has things that are really bothering them about which they want to talk to you, but which you would rather not hear. To maintain a great relationship, however, you canā€™t let your ego keep you from really listening.

This is a topic that we will go much deeper into another day.

But think about these 3 topics and ask yourself are you guilty of this?

So the next time you see your ego getting involved in your relationship, get rid of it! If you find yourself defending yourself or not allowing you to really listen, then you need to take a step back. Listen carefully to whatā€™s really being said, and use it to create the most amazing relationship.

........thanks for your time

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...... Tom General CEO, BUILDING A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

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